I had my first date with The Activist on Wednesday. Let's talk a little pregame. She messaged me first (Instant Message to be precise), we were matched up by OkCupid with the highest possible value (99%), she wanted to be a civil rights lawyer and was pretty attractive. At this point I was in between my second and third date with East Coast, but I was really looking forward to this date.
Scorecard after the jump;
The Activist
Age: 22 Height: 5'2''
Stats: Out-of-my-league, 99% Match, Political
# of Dates: -
Status: 1st date scheduled
So we talked a few times leading up to the date on Facebook. She had a "meeting" at Biftek at 7pm so we had planned to meet at 8:30pm on the Corner of Pins and Saint Laurent.
I arrived 10 minutes early and sent her a message saying I'd be there soon. I ended up waiting nearly 40 minutes in -3 degree weather outside a Pharmaprix. She finally messaged me to say she was there, as she preceded to come out of the bar without a coat to meet me. Apparently there was a communication issue, she thought we were meeting at the bar.
So anyways, we go inside and I discover she's still having her meeting. With two other dudes. She invites me to grab a glass and come join them at their table. Alright, be cool I say to myself, so I grab a glass and go with the flow. I meet the dudes, we have a couple drinks and watch the hockey game. They order another pitcher, and being a gentleman I offer to pay for it. We spend 45 minutes there. She spends 25 of them in the bathroom or outside having a cigarette, 10 minutes watching the game, and the rest of the time talking shop with the dudes - who are both working on the leadership campaign of a guy running for the NDP party (so is she).
We finally leave. She asks if I want to go somewhere else. I ask her skeptically if she does - we decide yes. We finally discuss what just happened and realize we were on completely different pages. She thought we were meeting in the bar (which we weren't), and that I ordered the extra pitcher (which I didn't) - she was really cute so I let it slide and took her to Reservoir. Strike 1, and 2.
It got better from there, but only just. Conversation was intense, and I could see why OkCupid thought we were compatible. Problem was, we were completely different people. I'm a pretty quiet guy, I'm a scientist and pretty heavily involved with that, I'm into trying new things but I'm also very down to Earth. Let me break down her life as she told it.
She was born in Montreal, Westmont to be precise. She got kicked out of Circus school when she was 13, was subsequently sent to boarding school and grew up in rural Quebec. She went to university at U of T where she became heavily involved in activism and politics. During the G20 she was arrested for "singing a Beatles song," became disheartened by TO and flew away to Australia. While there she taught scuba diving lessons in shark infested waters - so much so that a coworker was eaten by a shark. I had her clarify; all that was left was his wetsuit. While there she became addicted to cigarettes and online dating. When she got back to the Western Hemisphere she went on a series of Internet dates, starting with Craiglist's Personals, ending with a 2 year relationship off of Plenty of Fish. Oh and she's cool with having sex with tweens.
Suffice it to say, I didn't believe it all, pretty sure she Zoo Keepered me (She told me before the date how she once told a date she was a Zoo Keeper because he had misrepresented himself).
Anyway, this girl was a handful - too much for me to even want to handle. I walked her down the street and before we parted ways I asked if she wanted to see each other again. She said to text her. So I did on my way home.
"Hey I had a good time tonight, and I'd like to see you again so if you ever want to be less cryptic lemme know"
She replied,
"Hey, I had a good time too. I just don't think we had a connection. Sorry. You seem like a great guy, I'd still like to be friends!".
And that was that - I was relieved - I didn't want to deal with this girl anyway;
"Nah I'm good. Hope you have a good night and good luck. Thanks for the honesty though."
Age: 22 Height: 5'2''
Stats: Out-of-my-league, 99% Match, Political
# of Dates: 1
Status: No second date, no connection
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