My second date off the website happened about a week after my first fling flamed out. I had been messaging a few girls since the Separatist. One incredibly hipster girl (donning hipster glasses and in a bridge club), who I messaged after stalking her for awhile, found true love before our first date and canceled. I fear her mother would not have approved of my gentile background either way. As well, I had several girls messaging me, but one particularly titillating conversation went something like this:
“you have gorgeous eyes... ”- (56% Match, 38% Friend, 36% Enemy)
"Thanks, anything else about me that interests you? haha"
"you? :P"
"Haha, thats vague - I don't know how to respond to that."
"ok...i'm interested in getting to know you...better?:P"
Suffice it to say, that didn't materialize into anything of value.
One girl though, made it through the initial stages of wooing, so a date was set. I had messaged her at the behest of my visiting friend. She wasn't really my type. She was from Ontario and the was the type of girl I had my fill of back during my undergraduate years, but I needed to rebound from the Separatist so I threw together a message and hit send.
We exchanged 10 or 15 messages in the first couple days before exchanging numbers. We planned to meet after work at the waterfalls by Place des Arts and walk somewhere for a couple drinks. She wore a white vest over what I can only remember as a business casual blouse/pants combination. I remember her shoes were sparkly. We walked to the plateau while we exchanged undergrad stories, our conversation dominated by IKEA and particle board furniture, and how she had wasted her degree on this or that. We had drinks at Bily Kun, and I apparently charmed her enough to earn dinner, which we ate at Tequlia Taco on Sherbrooke @ St. Laurant. Conservation turned to undergrad classes and future plans, and I learned that the most dangerous place to live in Canada is Peterborough because of its perilously-built-on-a-fault-line nuclear power plant.
After dinner we took a walk through Old Montreal. We went there looking for another place to grab a drink, but by this time things were closing down. We eventually happened down a short alley-way and heard noise coming from an unlabeled restaurant. The only visible marking was a square, solid pink sign. I still don't know what it was actually called.
This really wasn't the sort of place we were looking for, and the first sign should have been the way we were greeted by the host; "You're lucky, we just had a cancellation", who preceded to take us to a dimly lit back bar. The place had no set menu, but the drink of the night was a blackberry and current vodka drink. We ordered two and sat back to take a look at the menue du jour. The thing that stood out for me was the $50 risotto. We didn't order anything, finished our drinks and got out'a'there. I don't think the bartender was too enthused by our tip.
I walked her home, and we said goodnight. I had a decent time and I probably would have seen her again if not for the message she left for me on Facebook the next day:
"Hi ______
I thought I'd send this message here since it's night time and I know you can't read your cell ;)
I had a great evening with you on Tuesday night, it was literally the best date I've had through that site. I was really impressed with how casually we got along, and how smoothly our conversation went.
The problem for me lies in that my relationship with my ex never ended on a final note ... it only ended because I moved. We thought the long distance thing wouldn't work, so we both dived right into OkCupid, but I think we came to the same conclusion ... and that's just that it still feels like "cheating" to be seeing someone else.
I mean, in the end, I don't think anything will come out of this long distance relationship ... but I would rather see that crash and burn through distance, then see us hurt each other and ourselves while we try the dating scene right now.
I am really sorry that you got pulled into this _____, because I thought I was ready ... but I'm not. In all honesty, you're a real catch, and I feel like I'm making a bad decision by doing this. I mean, a funny, relaxed, intelligent guy who wraps up the entire package by being really handsome? What am I doing?!
But ultimately, if I I'm staying stagnant right now, I don't want to have to hinder you. And since you're fresh in Montreal, I don't want you to miss out on the opportunity to meet other people.
Thank you SO much for enlightening me to the city, and introducing me to some cool hang-outs :)I really had a blast, but that guilty feeling I had the next day just isn't pleasant.
Good luck out there ... I'm sure you won't need to keep your profile active for long ;)
Warm wishes,"
That was that, but I still count it among my successful OkCupid forays - unlike the next two experiences I was about to have.
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